A STUDY of 1,000 employed mums revealed the common remarks they face in the workplace including, “you look tired”, “enjoy the rest of your week off” and “can’t your partner do any of the childcare?”.
But 55% are determined to change workplace lingo and get more recognition in the office.
Hundreds of women are determined to change the workplace culture around parenting
And while 38% feel their work provides a great support network, 29% wish they heard more supportive phrases like “you’re doing a brilliant job”, “thanks for all your work this week” and “your children come first” more often.
However, 63% believe their colleagues mean no harm when making such comments.
While 26% admitted a co-worker has corrected themselves midway through saying something that could be perceived as ill-informed to working parents.
The research was commissioned by Malteser, to launch its #MotherLover campaign which aims to help lighten the load for working mums and encourage those around them to support where they can.
It has also partnered with women’s online community Peanut to create the ‘Work & Motherhood’ content hub, providing actionable tips, tools and real-life advice around the challenges working mothers face.
Leah Dyckes, brand director at Maltesers, said: “It’s hard for working mums; society tells them they can ‘have it all’, but the reality is often very different.
“There are so many challenges, and it can be a real struggle to make it work – and too often the expectations and structures at work and home aren’t changing quickly enough.
”Through the #MotherLover campaign and meaningful partnership with Peanut, which directly creates spaces for mums every day, we can help shift this dynamic by asking everyone around women to step up, to show empathy, and do what they can as allies to lighten their load.”
The research also revealed mums’ top struggles when balancing their job as an employee and parent include fatigue and burnout (41%), emotional stress (32%), and childcare arrangements (30%).
While changing workdays due to child sickness (23%), morning preparations (17%) and school commitments (11%) were among the most stressful things for working parents.
And 82% said their employer is supportive of them when it comes to routine changes, such as childcare or working from home.
However, working mothers want to see further support such as better flexible working options (47%), increased financial support for childcare (32%) and inclusive parental leave policies (25%).
And 16% admitted they were treated differently the second time around when they had more than one child while in the same workplace.
The OnePoll.com data found 63% feel they need to work harder to prove themselves.
Of these, 46% put this down to a need to convince co-workers their change in hours doesn’t impact their output and 35% feel it’s more difficult to get recognition for the job that they do.
Michelle Kennedy, founder and CEO of the Peanut App, said: “As a mother of two myself, I can safely say that balance is a myth.
“The reality is, it’s always a juggle. Sometimes I juggle well, sometimes not so well.
”The essence is in trying to move through the madness, and not beating myself up when I get something wrong or when I drop a ball.
“That guilt associated with ‘dropping the ball’ is something that we don’t always talk about openly, and that contributes to feelings of isolation and loneliness.
”Creating safe spaces like our in-app ‘Work & Motherhood’ group is a step forward in ensuring that no mother feels alone in this struggle.
“We’re all human, we’re all doing our best, and that’s OK.”
Top 10 things working mums would like to hear less of in the workplace:
You look tiredShe’s only part timeI forgot you leave earlyWish I could have Friday offI bet it feels like a break coming into the officeI could never do thatEnjoy the rest of the week offMust be nice to get a lie-in on [days they aren’t in work]Can’t your partner do any of the childcare?It must be busy having the children home during the school holidays
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